The main thing to remember is hypnosis is following instructions. If we want to be hypnotized, we will be hypnotized.
If we are told, “Close your eyes and relax them. Allow them to become so tight that you are unable to open them. And only try to open them when you are positive they will not. “
Think about it. If we are given an instruction (same thing as a command, direction, or suggestive point) telling us to close the eyes, then closing them would indicate a conscious choice to comply with the hypnotist. That’s good. That is how we become consensually and safely hypnotized. It is generally a good idea, when hearing or viewing a product from a hypnotist for the first time, to listen all the way through “without being hypnotized” just sort of observing it as a witness — neither to review nor to criticize, but to be entertained. Kind of like watching a movie for the first time. When we like something, we tend to want more of it.
A part of me believes that erotic hypnosis builds up a tolerance level when we listen to more than we can handle. A doctor might say, “Too much is overindulgence. Sex addiction.” An author might say, “It’s not an addiction, it’s a lifestyle.” Too much for one might be just the right amount for another. We all measure tolerance uniquely to one another. Trance responsibly.
Simple. Close them. If we are told to allow them to become tight, then allow them to become tight. If we are told to only attempt to open them when we are sure they will not, well we are following instructions, we are agreeing to journey with our hypnotist.
If we think, “I wasn’t hypnotized because I opened my eyes,” well that just means we willfully chose to resist. Hypnosis is a choice. It may or may not involve a goal. Sometimes it takes us to a relaxing emotion where we are given space to be. Meditation is often a singular process. So is hypnosis (self-hypnosis). With erotic hypnosis, sometimes the experience can feel very much like a dual process which is a sign the hypnosis is working because the feeling being shared is an intimate one.
We can choose or not choose to follow the sound of someone’s voice. We can choose or not choose to sit easy with the idea that we must “obey” another person’s simple instructions. If we want to be hypnotized, we will be. If we do not want to be hypnotized, we won’t be. It’s that easy.
Do you want to be hypnotized?
Experiencing a deep trance is following instructions. We want to be hypnotized because we are trancers. Sometimes we are the trancee (or the subject) or the trance maker or trance guide (or the hypnotist). If we want something to happen, we have to create the space for it to be allowed. First it’s important to establish rapport with a hypnotist. Ask and answer questions. Experience the different styles of trance artists scattered along a long hypno spectrum. Some sessions may be more or less sexual, spiritual, kinky, daring, vulnerable, experimental, or even a bit scary. Trust is an important factor when choosing a suitable hypnotist. Obeying instructions can be a lot more desirable when we have an understanding of the hypnotist’s intentions.
After we’ve developed the art of hypnotic obedience with someone we trust and there is already a sense of feel-good relationship, it becomes easier to follow instructions without feeling the initial desire to “question.” Again, I want to re-emphasize that it is important to investigate or “vet” or research as much as possible about a potential hypnotist so we know WHO we are trusting. If in doubt, consider getting to know your hypnotist through social networks and see how they behave with their friends and with their peers. This will give a general idea of their overall true nature in a semi-private setting.
A common misconception is that hypnosis is something “done to me.” No. Nothing is ever “done to” us. Hypnosis is a choice. It is consensual. If it weren’t, it would be illegal. A hypnotist speaks, the subject listens. Sometimes questions are asked, answers are spoken. Again, we always have a choice.
All hypnosis is self-hypnosis. Ask any certified, qualified hypnotist and they’ll give you the same answer. That basically means that we hypnotize ourselves using the hypnotist’s voice as a tool to get “there.” And you may be asking yourself, “Well… where is there?” And the answer is yes.
If you are told, “Relax your arms and notice how extremely light they become as they rest on your lap. And as they become lighter, you may find they begin to float in the air all by themselves. Higher and higher…”
Think about it. A simple command to relax arms. Right? So what would happen if we allowed them to relax. Would relaxation mean hypnosis? No, but it sure makes hypnosis feel better
Could it be as simple as obeying a hypnotically-driven Dominatrix who enjoys giving you instructions to maintain an erection? When we are told to do things, and we know the result of doing that thing will be pleasurable, it is often a given a person will want to obey. This is usually how the femdom (female domination) fetish gets started. A hypnodomme TELLS a trancer to do something; he can question why she is telling him, or he can choose to step into compliance and do it because he knows it will be erotic. If a hypnodomme ASKS a trancer to to or feel something, this becomes a more permissive approach – allowing the listener to more quickly recognize a choice is acceptable.
If our arms are relaxed and we are told to notice how light they are becoming, then if we want a deeper trance, we must train ourselves to let our minds know that following instructions is what we are here for. So how cool is it when we imagine our arms extremely feather-like, getting lighter and lighter and lighter and lighter until it is held in the air. The feeling can be described as magic. It is the result of our choices, not the lack of choice. Realize hypnosis takes practice, and it’s normal to recognize which hypnosis sessions (or hypnotists) are excellent or even terrible for your personal choices. Get a feel for what you like, and keep an open mind that something new doesn’t have to imply better or worse. New is different and opening.
Zen and the Art of Erotic Hypnosis
Becoming a great subject for a lovely hypnotist takes a lot of practice. Are you willing to practice at being a great subject to experience the deepest trances? It took me years to trust another hypnotist to elasticize my sexuality without breaking me. It certainly didn’t happen overnight. Now, I can go down instantly with one specific individual just by hearing a single word.
Time is a valuable commodity. It is never a waste of time to get to know your hypnotist better. It is always worth it to write a kind word to an erotic hypnotist and build a friendship. I promise you, the more you know who you are lusting after or guiding your journey, the stronger your orgasms and the sexier the experience!
When we know our hypnotist as a fellow trancer, we might find it a whole lot easier to follow instructions the FIRST time when a new session is released. Notice with new fresh eyes how easy it becomes to be hypnotized the second and third time.
Hypnosis is only ineffective if we choose it to be. If we really want to be hypnotized, simply obey. If we don’t want to obey, that is a choice, and that is perfectly acceptable. Hypnosis is not a “do-to” or a “force” process. It is compliance and agreement. Pure and simple.
If we are told to see something but we have trouble visualizing, simply imagine or feel, rather than “see.” If you are told to feel something but have trouble feeling, simply “see” or “hear” or sense it in a way that works for you. Our imaginations are incredible, so let yourself go wild! Fantasies can take us anywhere. If you are told to do something you want to do, do it. If you are told to do something you don’t want to do, don’t do it. Listen/view a different session. If we are repeatedly given suggestions we don’t want to do but think you might enjoy them, think of the session as erotic entertainment – which it is! We may choose to explore or not. We may listen or not. We may listen to one or many.
If we are told/asked to say specific words, say them if you think it will arouse you to say them. If it feels silly, try it and see how it feels. If you are asked to think of a beautiful place or person, go there. Get lost in it. Why resist when we know it will feel sooo good? Resisting good hypnosis defeats trancing. Sometimes trance is a dropping in — and a dropping out. An example of this would be looking at an object for an extended period of time. Our eyes focus in for a great deal of time and then suddenly we’re aware of another object. Being focused or defocused is no indication of good or bad trance.
When you are ready to be hypnotized, tell yourself, “This is how it happens” and be present. If there are levels of resistance, then simply pretend it works. I know many people who “pretend hypnosis works” who say it’s their favorite method. For many people, the technique of “pretending the hypnosis works” allows them to go deeply into a trance. At any rate, pretending is an underrated and very important viable option to take trance further.
Keep in mind that hypnosis takes practice.
Many people listen to recordings for years before going into a deeeeep trance. Hypnosis takes practice. Some people can go into a deep trance the very first time. Others it can take longer to learn the art of going into a deep, hypnotic trance.
Some may say, “I have difficulty being hypnotized, I keep popping in and out of trance.”
Please listen carefully. When we want to learn how to experience a deep and effective trance with someone we LIKE and TRUST and know to be GOOD, then start telling yourself you CAN go into trance, and ARE already in trance, and that there is nowhere to be but in the present moment, rather than the opposite. There is nowhere to GO but further when we are already in the space we want to be.
When we tell ourselves there is a difficulty going in chance, we are choosing to have difficulty entering trance. Or. Replace difficulty with ease. It is easy, rather than difficult to be hypnotized. I am a good subject. I trust my hypnotist. I am ready. If we find ourselves popping in and out of trance, then maybe it’s our inner psychic shields protecting us from hearing what we are likely to reject. This is more good than bad actually because it means our defense or will mechanisms are working.
It is generally a good idea to agree with your hypnotist most of the time. Otherwise, there will be a lot of (sub)conscious clash. However the choice is yours.
Positive emotions and reactions towards hypnosis is likely to produce a better personal experience with it.
What not to say: “I am hard-to-be hypnotized,” unless you like being hard on yourself.
What to say: “Hypnosis is sexy!”
Sometimes I am less patient with people who use ADD as an excuse for choosing not to focus. When we truly want to be hypnotized, we must take the effort to focus or defocus according to what feels good to us. We are EASY to be hypnotized. Soon it will be so very easy to focus and recognize commands, and with trust and time and rapport, comply with them instantly.
When we reverse our thinking process to accept mostly POSITIVE thoughts, such as, “I can easily become hypnotized. Achieving a deep trance is effortless for me,” then our minds organically grow to genuinely believe it. The brain starts to say, “You will have positive results because you have positive thinking.” We ARE what we THINK. If we think something isn’t working, it won’t. If we think something IS working, then it will. That’s also an aspect of the Law of Attraction.
Rather than asking ourselves, “Am I in trance?” or “I’m not in trance right now,” instead replace those phrases with, “So this is what trance feels like!” or “This trance feels so good.” Doing so will nutritiously direct the subconscious mind with positive goodness. And at least this way we’ll be less likely to question the commands, because, in essence… we are the one choosing whether or not to respond.
Some people say things like, “Every time I’m about to drift down into a trance, some random sound will wake me out of it!”
The answer is much simpler than you may think. Instead of turning off the sounds or going out of your way for silence, the best thing to do is let those sounds enter the existing (or soon to be created) trance. When we discipline our minds to be aware of all the noises around us, trance becomes effortless. If we’re deep in a trance and then all of a sudden a helicopter goes by, we could think, “Crap, now it just woke me out of my trance.” Instead let’s turn the distraction into a self-induced deepener. A way to do this: “That helicopter is deepening my trance. Repetitive sounds are important in hypnosis.” This works with ambulance and fire sirens, barking dogs, and practically anything else.
There may be times when distractions NEED to be distracting so it’s good to be aware, not asleep. If you smell gas in the house or a baby is crying or you hear a burglar enter the home, it is important to respond just as quickly as you would if you had not been previously hypnotized. Erotic hypnosis is not an excuse for negligence. It is intimate sexy entertainment.
When Milton Erickson hypnotized his clients, sometimes strange noises would go off unexpectedly. Perhaps he would be speaking to the client and then something would go off (in today’s world, let’s assume it’s a car alarm). He would immediately incorporate those sounds to deepen the person’s trance by saying things like, “And perhaps now you hear a ringing in your ears, which tells you that you are, in fact, much deeper in a trance than most people.” If a garbage truck would come by outside his office, he would incorporate it into the hypnosis by saying, “Imagine for a moment that you want to get rid of that baggage you’ve been hanging on to. Perhaps you even visualize a garbage truck. Maybe you can hear it, hear it backing up. Go ahead and release it onto the truck now.” And the person would be so deep in a trance that when they would awaken later, they would say, “Wow! I was so deep that I thought I really heard a garbage truck!”
The key is to let those non-crisis sounds play their roles. Many people have the common misconceptions that if they hear unexpected, random sounds… that they will be inadvertently disturbed from experiencing an effective hypnosis trance. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
Pop Quiz Question:
You are deep in trance listening to erotic hypnosis thinking of boobies and legs. Suddenly you hear an ice cream truck outside with the music dinka-donka-dinka-donka-doodee-do-di-da. Which do you think is the best way to respond so the boobies get sexier?
A. Fucking ice cream truck. Ruined my trance. I was so deep too. Damn. Shut the fuck up.
B. Milk and boobies
C. Ice, pussy
D. Breasts dipped in chocolate
E. The sound is shooting from her nipples
If you selected A, go sit in the corner, put your thumb in your ass and be quiet.
Should you hear non-crisis human voices while you are listening to erotic hypnosis, imagine those people are creating a natural ambient crowd sound and see if you can drop between the silence of their pauses. If there is an emergency or a crisis, discontinue immediately and resume at a later time.
Sometimes life calls. Sometimes giving ourselves a quiet place takes some creativity. There may be family members who need special care (grandparent need a diabetes shot, baby needs fresh new bottle, aunt dropped a contact lens, etc.). Do the best you can to prepare your space and even let others know you need an hour of privacy.
Sometimes we can turn off the phones and other times we may be waiting for a special important call that is set to arrive this week but we don’t know when. The pest control guy may knock on the door ready to spray. The lawn mower guy outside is already mowing. Unpredictable events happen. Try not to get discouraged if you get interrupted. Remember, life comes first. Sexy audio entertainment, when in sexy balance, comes a slippery second.
Our minds can subconsciously filter out what is important and what is not important. Personal discipline can make these easier to identify. Again, hypnosis takes practice. Practice practice practice. I feel it is worth emphasizing!
Candles with flames should never be left unattended, and that includes falling asleep under hypnosis. I recommend battery-operated candles. Incense is wonderful with hypnosis — I like to place mine in a stone bowl filled with sand.
Trying to block sounds = bad. Listening to sounds = good. Transforming non-crisis sounds to crisis sounds – bad. Transforming crisis sounds into non-crisis sounds = bad. Allow sounds take you deeper. Sometimes in my own hypnosis sessions, I will say, “Any outside noises you may hear will only take you deeper into a trance. Any interruptions will only take you further into hypnosis than before.”
Sometimes people say things like, “I didn’t feel amnesia afterwards, so the hypnosis didn’t work.”
Hypnosis takes practice. Not everyone can get deep enough to experience amnesia the first few times. It is an art form to go deep. If you want to go deeper, then tell your mind you are going deeper. Trance does not require suggestions of forgetting for it to be considered hypnosis. For those who look forward to hearing amnesia suggestions, then perhaps you might have an amnesia fetish which is a subcategory of hypnosis.
A hypnotist might say: “Remember to forget this suggestion.”
An instruction that tells us to forget. When we trust somebody, we like their intentions. Trancers who are in friendly relationships with each other can give great tips on how to take this a step further, so ask around! Remember to FORGET the suggestion. If you tell yourself to remember to remember, then you’re telling your mind the opposite of what I commanded you. That’s basically saying to yourself, “I don’t really want to be hypnotized, so I’ll just ignore the command and put my own command there.” There is nothing left to remember but a great time and feeling wonderful! Or maybe you remember a little and the details are a bit fuzzy, that’s very sexy intoxicating feeling
Some people say “Tell me something I’ll only remember if I’m deep in hypnosis. Like a subliminal message I won’t hear unless I’m really hypnotized.”
Understand that each of us are responsible for remembering or not remembering messages. And first of all, even if a hypnotist said a subliminal message, how would we have known it was said, whether we were hypnotized or not? How do you know I haven’t put subliminal messages on this page? Not all subliminal messages are spoken. Something is subliminal if it is implied. It means I don’t have to say it outright.
For instance. If I said, “You’re going into trance now and hypnosis overwhelms you deeper and deeper into my voice.” Now in that sentence there are subliminal unspoken things. Where do you spot them? The direct command was that the listener is directed to go into trance. That’s easy. The second part now implies that since hypnosis is overwhelming the person, that perhaps the trancer has somehow either gotten smaller or hypnosis has gotten bigger (none of which are possible). It also implies that since hypnosis is overwhelming, the listener begins to feel less-overwhelming, which subliminally implies being covered. Being covered implies protection. And I added “deeper and deeper” which means subliminally the person is falling.
However, I never directly SAID you were falling. Another subliminal message is the presupposition “my voice” which assumes that my voice even exists. Now technically, you’re reading a piece of paper and you didn’t actually hear anything. My voice technically doesn’t exist here because you can’t hear me. You can only read me. So I’ve subliminally suggested that maybe you can hear my voice. Also subliminally, I suggested that because you’re entering trance, you’ll “fall into my voice.” Technically, that’s impossible. I cannot pick your body up and put you in my throat and swallow you in my esophagus and let you get tangled in my vocal chords and then put you in my stomach (ok you perverted boys, I’m not talking about blowjobs). You get what I’m saying though, don’t you? I’m suggesting you’ll fall into my voice (message being: my vocal chords are so big and you are so small). Not only will you fall into my voice, but you’ll go deeper because you’re finally in my voice.
The point is: metaphor. Subliminal messages allow us to turn the subject into the object of the next subject.
So if I had NOT spoken subliminally with unspoken implications, I could have easily said, “You’re going into trance now. You’re so small and hypnosis is so big. It’s so big that my voice is all you hear. My voice has the ability to protect and cover you. Pretend my voice is a cave (or a hole or whatever I choose). Now enter my voice and as you enter, go deeper and deeper into hypnosis.” Both mean practically the same thing. However, the first one has subliminal unspoken messages.
That is why it’s illogical to say: “Tell me something subliminal I’ll only hear when I’m hypnotized.” It doesn’t quite work that way because it can’t be measured or determined. In order for it to be considered hypnosis, there must be choice involved. Otherwise it’s considered (by banks and credit card companies) an act of rape, hypnotic coercion, and wrongful manipulation.
Something spoken quietly is not synonymous with being subliminal. Subliminal is open camouflage. When we are deeply hypnotized, we absorb words that sink into us because we trust the flow of what we are inviting into our bodies. Perhaps it’s the quiet whispers we reach to hear because we want to remember them. Unspoken words is an effective vocal instrument. It’s the words not being said that often have the largest impact.
Can you explain a double bind?
Yes. Here is an example of a double bind (cause and effect): “The more aroused you get, the weaker your legs will become. The weaker your legs become, the more I control you. The more I control you, the more aroused you become.”
Notice the words and how they were used. Notice the language pattern. The sequence. Read it again and again. It really traps you doesn’t it? When you get aroused, this happens. When this happens, that happens. And when that happens, you get aroused. So no matter what happens, you’ll get aroused. No matter what happens, you’ll get weaker. And no matter what happens, I’ll control you. And since I used the word “more” it implies it will get stronger each time.
Repetition increases memory. If you want a suggestion to stick, get excited when you hear it again.
Here is an example of a double bind (assumption): “You can listen to only my voice OR you can simply ignore everything else around you until my voice is all that is there.”
Notice that either way, the trancer is guided to the voice.
Can you explain a presupposition?
It’s a long word but the meaning is simple. It implies existence. For example, “The more you stare up at my red toenails, the more submissive you become.” Now I presupposed several things. First, I made you assume you had to “stare up” at my toenails, which is implies you are underneath me. Secondly, I presupposed that I have bare feet. But how would you know?. I’m all the way across the country. How do you know I’m not wearing tennis shoes? Imagining, pretending, accepting, embracing. Thirdly, I’ve presupposed that I have red painted toenails. How would a trancer know it if I hadn’t said it? I could have pink toenail polish. A suggestion implied the actual existence of it, and by your conscious decision to believe it, the fantasy comes to life. Fourthly, it was presupposed you were already submissive because I said “more submissive” as though you could somehow increase your current state. When told to “look at” them something that technically doesn’t exist (all that really exists is our own imagination), perspective reality has changed. Einstein referred to this as relativity. Once the feet are part of our reality, then the subconscious mind may choose or not choose to perceive glorious toenails.
Without a presupposition, the suggestion would sound like this: “Pretend I have my feet over your face. I have bare feet. My toenails are painted red. The more you imagine staring at my red toenails, the more you’ll realize that perhaps you’re submissive. And the more you realize your submissive nature, the more submissive you will become.”
Being hypnotized takes practice.
It is always worth our time to develop the skill of conscious awareness.
Think about how long it took you to practice tying your shoelaces. At first, it took all of your conscious effort. How to tie the laces, how and where to loop it, how tight to make it, and where to hold your finger. When you messed up tying your shoes, you simply untied them and tried again. It may have seemed frustrating at first, but look at the results now! You do it subconsciously without even thinking about it. You could do it with your eyes closed if you wanted to. It was WORTH the TIME to learn it, wasn’t it? Imagine spending the rest of your life with your shoelaces untied because you never wanted to put in the work. Once you learn it, it’s with you FOREVER. Same with riding a bike or playing chess. With hypnosis, it works the same way. Once you put in the time to PRACTICE over and over until it becomes effortless, it will transfer from being a conscious effort to being an unconscious effort.
There are four stages of “practicing” until you know you have reached the correct stage. Most of you are ALREADY PAST the first stage already.
Unconscious Incompetence – this is basically the state where you are ignorant and lack knowledge and skills and don’t even realize it yet. For instance, in learning how to tie your shoes, this would be the part where you didn’t even realize that shoes have laces.
Conscious Incompetence – this is where you realize you are not an expert and you suddenly realize perhaps you should be doing something differently (and you look for outside help for assistance in learning). For instance, in learning how to tie your shoes, this would be the part where you realize that wearing velcro is outdated and you get your parents to tie your shoes for you.
Conscious Competence – this is where you actively start making a conscious, knowing effort to experience formal learning. For instance, in learning how to tie your shoes, this would be the part where you say, “Everyone be quiet so I can concentrate! I’m learning how to tie my shoes and I need to focus carefully on this so I can do it right.”
Unconscious Competence – this is where you don’t even have to think about it anymore and you have successfully learned to complete the task effortlessly. For instance, in learning how to tie your shoes, this would be the part where you can tie your shoes and be able to carry a conversation with someone and not even have to look down to concentrate.
Hypnosis is easy, and many love it, but it’s not for everyone. Some people over-analyze everything by listening to every phrase and trying to decide whether or not they should follow it. Questioning the nature of everything is good in science labs but not as useful when learning to respond instantaneously with a trusted fellow trancer hypnotist. There is a time to question, however, and that is the first time you listen to a session with a new individual. Hear it with fresh ears, see it with new eyes, and decide if it is for you. Selectivity is crucial.
I highly recommend reading the article “The Art of Listening… or Not.” In a nutshell, it points out 21 modes of listening we often use in erotic hypnosis, and with understanding of the various styles of listening, we can more easily transition from one mode of listening to another. Listening is very much a skill worth developing not only with hypnosis but with all communications we use daily.
Some trancers listen so extremely carefully that they find fault in phrases (critical mind) and are purposely searching for every escape opportunity to resist. If that’s that applies to you, then you’re telling yourself subconsciously that you don’t want to be hypnotized. Your experience may perfectly fit into that of entertainment, and that is ok too.
The question I pose to you is this… “Why listen to a hypnosis recording if you intend on resisting and fighting it?” While the resistance IS the magic, so is the surrender. If you love resisting, then please allow the same energy to surrender (granting the hypnotist is presenting a worthy trance). Conscious awareness is a skill of open knowing. If all else fails, tell your mind, “I love to follow instructions because I trust the hypnotist’s intentions with me.” If you do not believe this to be true, consider your options. There are plenty of hypnotists on the internet who offer wonderful services. Selectivity is the fun part! When we trance with someone we really like, we may not fear submission in a realm with her.
Let’s not confuse this with: “I will not resist,” because that might increase resistance rather than lessen it. To focus on the word “resist” creates resistance. If you must resist, resist into relaxing. The words we think directly impact our experience. Even when we tell ourselves not to resist, most of us are still subconsciously going to do it. It is better to redefine our conditions for trance by reinforcing positive thoughts. For instance, if I were to say to you, “Don’t think of a blue elephant,” — well… your mind just did the opposite and you thought of a blue elephant. And yet, I specifically suggested not to do it. The same law applies with what we think. A more optimal solution would be, “Obedience is pleasure,” or “I’m hypnotized,” or “I am so relaxed and at ease.” Focus more time on the words “obey” and “hypnotized” and “easy” and “effortless” and less time on the word “resistance.”
To critically analyze instructions before following them is smart the first time. Silly the second. It is important to know what is being fed to our minds in hypnosis! Once we know what we are hearing is good, safe/exciting, and worthy of repeating then there is little to no need to reanalyze every time we are exposed to it.
Willfully over-analyzing is basically throwing your money away unless you’re getting entertainment out of it. My best advice under those circumstances is to STOP THINKING so much and just relax. Seriously. Relaxing is so easy to do! Think of nothing or think of whatever you want. One of the main reasons people want to be hypnotized is because it is so effortless and makes them FEEL GOOD. Hypnosis can allow people to unwind from their days at work, relieve stress, open sexuality, and reveal sexy human truths about ourselves. Erotic hypnosis has a habit of making orgasms stronger and longer lasting! Knowing this, how do you think you would like erotic hypnosis best? If you’re thinking too hard, become aware of it, soften your brain muscles that are connecting to another sequence of thoughts, fall into nothingness or “blank” and continue developing that transition until it becomes effortless. Entering and exiting trance are both transitive states of conscious awareness. Both need to be equally developed.
Sometimes people say things such as, “I felt very hypnotized and was going down extremely deep. But when you gave me suggestions, they didn’t work on me.”
Well honey, we can take a horse to water, but we can’t make it drink. There is always a choice. A hypnotist simply can’t force you to accept a suggestion. That’s like forcing a horse to drink. All hypnosis is consensual because it is self-hypnosis (all suggestions have choices which we can accept or not accept). This is free will, baby
Some people may choose to think, “But you’re a hypnotist! All your suggestions should work on me.”
That makes me laugh so hard, one time I spit out coffee on my computer. It’s rather silly. If hypnotists like me could force suggestions and make it happen against people’s wills, we would own every world bank, be able to veto any bill, and be able to stop world violence at the snap of a finger. We could hypnotize casino owners to give us endless supplies of cash. If hypnotists could magically make someone do something they didn’t want to do, don’t you think Bill Gates would have given me all his money by now? Hypnosis only works when we let it. Hint: my wishlist is still up.
We decide if or when we want a suggestion (given by a hypnotist) to become a part of our organic belief system. A hypnotist cannot force another to do something you don’t want to do. Hypnotists can’t force you to close your eyes, nor can they force you to obey commands.
I do feel it is important to mention false suggestions, which I feel are harmful. If a hypnotist tells a person to rob a bank, the trancer could easily disregard the suggestion and discontinue use. However if a hypnotist tells a person the bank is owned by a bunch of serial killers and the only way to take them out of commission is to steal all the money and give it to charity — well, that is called hypnotic coercion, manipulation, or false suggestion. Unfortunately, stuff like this happens in real life, and it is how the myth that hypnotists are manipulative spreads by the media.
Sometimes people say things like, “But I watched a hypnosis show and saw a straight man say that he liked men and I know for a fact he didn’t want to do that.”
Haha. Don’t kid yourself. Regardless of what he may say afterwards, he definitely wanted to say it. It doesn’t necessarily mean he’s gay, it just meant he was willing to say it. Besides, comparing stage hypnosis to erotic hypnosis mp3 recordings is drastically different.
Choosing to accept or reject a suggestion is up to you. NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU DO ANYTHING AGAINST YOUR WILL. It is generally a good idea to read a detailed descriptions defining the suggestions and/or theme so you have some expectation of what you may experience. It is good to listen the first time all the way through, without entering what you feel is deep hypnosis, unless you trust the hypnotist and her intentions. If you want a deep trance, then find a recording you want to listen to, then obey the instructions within it. It’s that simple!
Sometimes a person may think or say, “I wasn’t hypnotized,” or “I’ve never been hypnotized and I’ve listened to all your hypnosis sessions.”
Do you really know you weren’t hypnotized? People are hypnotized just by watching tv too long. Erotic hypnosis has a habit of kissing up on us when we least expect it… approaching its way around us until we are in it. Hypnosis is awesome when we lose track we are in it. How cool is it to be so deep in hypnosis that we didn’t even realize when we entered? That’s like being in the eye of a tornado. Sometimes the storm is so big, looking for it leads us to an infinite loop. Lust. Erotica. Lying right in the middle of it. Suppose it is already happening. After all, hypnosis is following instructions. To follow instructions is to look forward to each new word that may or may not be a sexy command. To disregard instructions is a personal choice. Thank goodness for choices! Again, hypnotists can be persuasive, but they absolutely cannot force anyone to follow instructions or do something against one’s will.
Or maybe you’re expecting something completely unrealistic. Ask yourself this: “What would have to happen so that I realize I’m actually hypnotized?”
Would you have to feel amnesia?
Perhaps we can remember a time when we have “forgotten” where we’ve left our keys around the house. Have you ever forgotten where you parked your car? Or saw someone and you knew their face but couldn’t remember their name? Sure, sometimes amnesia can happen in deep trance hypnosis, however amnesia does not equal hypnosis. Amnesia is a valuable tool, not a requirement, of hypnosis.
Would you have to feel a part of your body become numb?
Ever watched tv late at night feeling a little insomnia and your legs felt numb with no desire to change the channel? Or maybe you held the remote control in your hands and they just seemed to stay there. That’s arm catalepsy. Or have you ever listened to a teacher or a presenter and just cocked your head to the side and stayed in that position with your mouth wide open? That’s mouth and head catalepsy. Sure, sometimes catalepsy can happen in deep trance hypnosis, however to be hypnotized does not require catalepsy.
Would you have to be able to ignore every outside sound?
Consider the times you watch a movie. Have you ever watched a movie and were so engrossed that everything around you disappeared? Or have you ever been browsing online and got so focused on something, like right now, that all sounds seem to have disappeared? Now notice the sound of the computer modem and internal hardware of your computer. If you can, listen to the sound. See, you’re focused on it. But before you weren’t. The unconscious mind has so many bits and pieces to process that the conscious mind can’t possibly focus on everything during every single second. We ignore outside sounds every single day. Sounds of crickets. Sounds of birds. They could be outside your house right now. Or sounds of feet shuffling on the carpet. Sounds you’d typically ignore. So ignoring sounds does NOT equal hypnosis. A common myth of hypnosis is that hearing outside sounds means one is not hypnotized, but it would be dangerous to ignore all outside sounds because we are self-preserving creatures who must respond in times of a crisis.
People often say, “If I were hypnotized, I’d be able to shut off everything. But I just can’t.”
Ok go back and read everything. And I do mean everything. Erotic hypnosis is not about shutting off or shutting down. It is about turning on and turning up. It is turning up the sounds, turning up the dials on the body, turning on awareness, being fully present and conscious and aware at all times.
THINGS TO REMEMBER:
* Follow all instructions. That’s 95% of hypnosis right there.
* Always think positive thoughts. Tell yourself the hypnosis is working.
* Hypnosis is self-hypnosis. Only YOU can make yourself do something.
* Remember that hypnosis takes practice. Not everyone can be deeply hypnotized the first time.
* If all else fails, pretend it’s working. Eventually the mind will have an easier time removing the “critical faculty” barrier between the conscious and subconscious mind, thus allowing a more vivid fantasy.